Just smashed up my little finger
True story, it is pretty miraculous
I just smashed up my little finger and it is proving quite miraculous.
Sh*t happens to all of us
This is quite a coarse beginning to an article but please keep reading..
I am going to show you that even the most rank little things in life can be outstanding business tools… This is my banged up, black and blue and possibly broken little pinky in this photo in our Facebook group.
I was playing a game after school yesterday, with three 10-year olds and a bunch of tiny kids… and I got the rugby ball right on the end of my finger… It cracked pretty good and the pain was instant…
Tomorrow, I will go to the doctor and get an x-ray. Today though, I am using it to grow my local sphere with pretty amazing results…
Let me explain:
When you are working relationally you need to interrupt patterns… There are loads of patterns or defense strategies that are constantly at play.
You need to break them to grow your sphere quickly. They exist in all of us. We use them all the time to avoid real connection and apparently costly interruptions…
Politeness is a pattern… We ask “how are you?” and then we move on quickly.
We avoid vulnerability with strangers in are case they turn out to be a serial killer LOL
BUT understand this...
Any disruption from the status quo can be an incredible pattern breaker. The disruption breaks open the protective facade and it allows you to deepen your relationships quickly.
Although extremely painful, this injury to my little pinky has been extremely powerful. As an experiment (for ur benefit) I’ve been wandering through our local town with my possibly broken pinky…
I just walked into a cafe and ordered a hot chocolate…
As I paid for the drink, I told the server… “I think I may have broken my finger” and I held it up.
The patterns of normalcy, the role playing of the server were instantly broken. A barrage of questions flew in my direction…
The concern on his face was real. He reached across, grabbed my hand and started gently examining my finger…
He did it kindly, gently, with a great deal of empathy. When he bought my drink over, he offered to get some ointment for me and apply it to my finger.
Our relationship is forever changed, deeper, kinder, more honest and yes infinitely scarier…
Which brings me to you…
If you want to keep playing professional role, hiding your injuries, flaws and faults, then you will be competing with so many other REALTORS and your ability to differentiate yourself will be extremely difficult or next to impossible!
On the other hand, if you are brave enough to weaponize your vulnerabilities, your injuries, your failings and those unique idiosyncrasies that make you… magnificently you...
If you are courageous enough to do this, you can build life-changing, business generating relationships in absolutely any market….
Even when really shitty things are happening.
Especially when this is the case…
In case you did not realize it, our world is actually upside down, and you need to stand on your head to see it the right way round.
Perhaps we’ve all been looking at things wrong…
What if your specific challenges are actually your greatest asset?
Am I making sense?
Reply to this email or drop a comment if I am?
Geoff